Have I fallen off a cliff or something? Seems like I must have.  Honestly, I’ve just been uber busy in my personal life, my professional life and in every other way.  I’ve had a couple of performances that popped up so I didn’t have time to mention on here.  Sorry folks!  I also spent some time with an awesome photographer and his wife and shot for a potential book they are putting together on the New York Burlesque scene.  I’ve also been in talks with an amazing costumier.  I’m so excited for what we are creating together, it’s going to be a very classic twist from what I’ve been known to do.

I am posting though more to let you know about some shows I have coming up since I’ve been unable to do so recently.  I have two going on this week.  The first is North Jersey’s Dr. Sketchy.  Yes, I am making a trip back into the Garden State but this time to the Clash Bar in Clifton.  We will be bringing you a taste of what Molly Crabapple created.

On Sunday I will be back in New York City offering up my talents for a very worthy cause.  David Bishop, an incredible human being, will be holding a fundraiser for AIDS Walk: New York.  He will be holding a Garden Party Spectacular!! at the TADA Theater.  The line up for this show is insane not to mention it’s by donation only.  If you have the time and the heart come by, see an awesome show and give to an incredible cause.

After that, I’ll be taking a little break I think.  I might get some last minute gigs in May but as for now I’m planning to focus on a new routine I’m hoping to present in the Fall.  I know! Me work on a routine months in advance?! Craziness I assure you but this act will be insane! It’s what I’m working with the costumier on So hold onto your hats for some fun stuff and hopefully some exciting news in the future.

Huggles and Kisses!

So on Sunday is my sorta anniversary with my wife.  I say sorta because we were actually married on February 29th and there is no 29th this year so we like to celebrate it over 2 days, the 28th of February and the 1st if March.  It’s funny how sometimes it’s like wow, it’s only been 2 years and others its, wow, it’s only BEEN 2 years.  Everyday we are still finding out new things about each other and becoming more synched up to each others wants and desires.

I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging but I do quite often get compliments on our relationship.  Saying how we are just so compatible or we work so well together, that we are such a healthy couple.  I always thank the person but follow it up with, but it’s work to make it that way.  We didn’t always work on our relationship like the way you should.  A healthy relationship is like any living thing, it needs nurturing and sustenance otherwise it will shrivel and die and that’s what our’s almost did.

During our first year of marriage we thought, this is easy, you just go on as is.  We were wrong.  We both fell into habits which unbeknownst to us was pushing the other one away.  It got bad.  Real bad.  So bad in fact I did something I never thought I could do, I cheated on her.  With another woman.

This is not a fact that I am proud of but it is part of our journey and when I told her about it we had a choice.  Figure out a way to fix this, which my suggestion was counseling, or figure out how to separate.  Neither of us wanted to separate, we loved each other.  The cheating wasn’t the problem, it was only a symptom of the problem.  A problem both of us had and through counseling we were able to address those problems and become stronger from them.

Counseling was strange, some of the activities really opened our eyes to ourselves and each other, some were a good way to reconnect and others were just stupid.  But over all it made us reconnect and fall in love all over again.  We still bust out some of the practices we were taught just to show the other one that we are still cogniscent of the fact that this is a living entity and that we are still nurturing it.

I love her more today than I did when I married her.  I love that we have open communication and even during that dark time we were able to talk about it, even if through tears and loud voices.  I love that I know I have her support and she knows she has mine.  I love that through it all our trust of one another is deeper now than it ever was and no matter what people try to do they cannot break that bond.  She is my super hero, my lover, my biggest fan and my best friend.  Sure we fight, but we work through it.  And I think it’s that support and openness between us that others see and I hope that it will only continue to grow as we start another year together.

Huggles and Kisses!

A painting done of my wife and I by Molly Crabapple for LA's Manifest Equality Art Show

So my ankle is healing,  this is obviously a good thing.  I can walk up and down stairs with less pain everyday and I even found myself doing something that resembled dancing (to the very very untrained blind eye) in the kitchen while listening to the radio last week.  These are all steps in the right direction.  So of course since we all know about my patience, I set myself and my wife up for a little gig of sorts together last night.

We went and modeled for Molly Crabapple. If you don’t know her, for shame!  She is this incredible artist who is creator of Dr. Sketchy’s.  Not like heads up one of them but the entire shebang!  This woman is talented!  She is doing a piece for Manifest Equality and she chose to use my wife and I as her subjects!! I’m so super excited to see what she comes up with.  Even if unrecognizable, it is still just an honor to work directly with her.  And to sweeten the pot she gave us a signed copy of “Scarlett Takes Manhattan,” and made us aviation cocktails.  A truly fun excuse to don the face paint and head out into the world.

It felt good to get into my costumes again even if it was just to stand there and pose.  I am beginning to feel inspired again to perform once more.  I’m so anxious to hear my Doctor give me the ok.  I know I’ll have to start slow but that’s ok.  I have one amazing group holding a slot for me, knowing it will be a bit gimpy but still wanting me to be in their show.  It really means so much.  I also have contacts I can get back to, got to get back on that horse of promoting and producing.  I’m also in talks with someone about making a custom costume!! I’m really excited and am hoping to have it for my fire tassels.  I will not let this leg nor any negative people out there deter me.  I’m going to come back and it’s going to be huge

My friend sent me this little bit from a book when I was getting some negative comments from individuals.  (it’s funny how it all happened around the same time and all the IP addresses came from the same area, and while I could call people out I’m not going to because regardless of what said people think, I know who I am and I don’t need to be dragged to their level) I do love this quote though,

Policeman: “Ma’am, do you have any enemies?”
Old lady: “Don’t be insulting! Of course I do. Enemies are an indication of character!”

and baby, I have character!

So much is coming soon, I can just tell.  I look forward to keeping you all abreast as to the upcoming events!

huggles and kisses

Pic take by the wife on the train heading home from Molly's.